Of all the relationships a person can have, friendship must be the most popular. Okay, maybe popular isn’t the word to use but definitely friendship is the one that you will always hear about although unfortunately, it’s the ending that we hear about but that’s not the topic at hand. How do you view friendships and who rates and defines them? You, your friends or both?
I must admit that I love my friends so this topic should be easy right? WRONG!! Your friends are very important when it comes to who you become. Not saying that you have to follow their every move but anyone who thinks their friends haven’t played a significant part in who they are is an idiot. The issue comes sometimes in how you see your friendship with someone but I will look at that when I talk about my experiences later on.
Definition is key when it comes to friendships. What is a friend? I’m not going to bore you with any of those generic dictionary.com definitons but I think most grown adults know what a friend is. We use the word loosely at times to mean people we barely say hi to and maybe the girl in the next cubicle at our jobs but I do think we know who are friends are. The problem could be that those who aren’t our real friends are more fun at times so we tend to hang out with them more.
I rate friendships very high. Friends are like the brothers and sisters that aren’t blood related and if I consider you a friend, you are truly loved. Over the years, I have never had a serious issue with my male friends but oh man, the females are tough (maybe that’s why they are my friends). I have the highest regard for my female friends but I dare not tell them I miss them when we don’t speak for a while. The reason is that it seems like nothing to them. Maybe I feel more connected to them than they do to me but that’s probably just the way it is. I have been told I take friendships too seriously and maybe I do but is there any other way to value the connection that friends have?
Friendship is one of the most popular relationships anyone has if not the most important and must be valued highly. A person with no friends has no real life at all but maybe some people like it that way. I, for sure, am not one of them.
I, too, take friendships very seriously. I don’t use that word with everyone. it makes me wish Facebook would have little different categories–like Acquaintances, Gaming Buds, you know, stuff like that. The friendships I have developed have been closer than some of the ones I’ve had with my family, so in a few cases, my friends are like my family. Which is why I treasure all the great ones I have and it’s a major blow when someone I thought was a good friend does something to betray that trust and taint that bond.
The majority of my friends tend to be male, although over the years, I have developed some close bonds with females…it did take a minute–a long minute…peek my journey in one of my past blogs, when you get a moment…
http://nolabelsunleashed.wordpress.com/2012/04/04/soul-cleanse-20-females-friendships/
This is an outstanding post. I cherish my friendships and have always considered myself to be a great friend, but I realize that has not always been the case. When I truly look at many of my friendships I realized that a majority of them have lacked balance. They were either one-sided with me doing and giving the most or it was the other person. My goal going forward is to adjust that a seek a balance.
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